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Prayers for Tom Petty - 1950-2017

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14 minutes ago, Nel said:

I'm not entirely sure what you're getting at. But if you're saying that Tom and the Boys knew that his (Tom's) days were numbered, I completely disagree. Especially, after reading the two recent LA Times pieces, one on Tom, and the other on the Heartbreakers.  

I agree, also in his last interview he was looking to the future. I don't think anyone close to him expected this.

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16 minutes ago, peacesmile said:
16 minutes ago, peacesmile said:

I was in Diamond Circle at Hyde Park and saw her watch Tom for some time on the left hand side of the stage. Cool to know Shania Twain was there too!

 

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On 10/11/2017 at 12:50 PM, SingsInFrench said:

Thank you. Too much Facebook, and not nearly enough Mudcrutch Farm.

Good to see you here again, Susan.

I'm thankful that everyone here continues to share their thoughts and memories. For so many, Tom's death is something that has come and gone, but I still find myself coping better on some days than others.

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On 10/16/2017 at 6:01 PM, wild1forever said:

Good to see you here again, Susan.

I'm thankful that everyone here continues to share their thoughts and memories. For so many, Tom's death is something that has come and gone, but I still find myself coping better on some days than others.

Thank you! It's good to see everyone here too!

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On 10/12/2017 at 9:16 AM, dollardime said:

Looking back I believe Tom knew that his time in this realm was drawing to a close. The last interview where he gave Ron some special praise was a very touching moment I thought...Mike and Benmont get a lot of plaudits but it was nice to give Ron his due there...the last three years post 2014..the timing of it all..the Mudcrutch album and tour, indeed in some ways the Mudcrutch tour last year would have been the ideal way to bow out of stage performance for Tom in my view. The Heartbreakers just concluded tour.from the start it just all seemed a bit..I can't find the right word or maybe its too early to be even thinking about the context of all of this at all...again i go back to the human dimension in all this..but for me anyway the last tour was a difficult watch on a human level particularly towards the end and that had nothing to do with set lists or songs played...my heart just went out to Tom and the body language of the rest of the band on stage especially in the last few shows..it was as if they knew as well...bigger picture and maybe the more important aspect the only aspect you could say is the music and the over 40 year treasure trove of songs and performances....

I think Tom kept going until he couldn't keep going no more and then kept going some more......

 

 

I've been thinking a lot about this over the past week. It's hard to know what was really going on behind the scenes, and maybe we'll never know. TP was such a private person, and kept extremely tight reins on his image and public persona. He was incredibly shrewd — much more than he ever gets credit for — at presenting only what he wanted in the public sphere. Think back to his divorce or heroin habit or temper or depression. None of it was public knowledge; it was always kept out of the public's eye. He was also really good at hiding pain. He just knew how to present himself publicly. Not phony mind you — he was never phony or anything but authentic. But he knew which notes to hit. He knew that his natural charisma and a well-timed broad smile told a story that dovetailed with his reputation, even if there was pain or turmoil behind the scenes.

That's why, it's easy to say "Tom Petty was all smiles at the Hollywood Bowl;" it's true, but it doesn't tell the whole story. He was the quintessential performer, and never let his fans see behind the curtain. To a casual onlooker, he probably came off as the same ol' SoCal super cool rock star TP as ever. It's only super obsessive, overly observant fans who have studied the man to extreme degrees for years and years that would dig deeper to get a different vibe.

I don't for a second believe he "knew he was going to die" or was "ready to die" or anything like that. At the same time, I would not be surprised at all if more was going on that nobody knew about, whether it be emotionally or physically or chemically or what have you. Granted, I didn't attend any shows on this tour in person. But from everything I've seen and studied in depth, he did seem a bit off to me, a little unsteady, a little unfocused. The performances were fine. But he could do them from muscle memory. It was like he was reading from a script, for fear of losing his grip if he ventured off. Gigantic mega tours can create that feeling. I was really looking forward to what he had to offer once he wound himself down and was back in a comfortable, relaxed environment, and I am very sorry and heartbroken that we'll never get to see what lay ahead. But there's no doubting he put 100% into whatever he did, including the grueling tour this summer. We may never know what toll that took.

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Now it seems more or less official Tom had a tiny fracture in his hip that caused him a lot of pain. I think I read it on Rolling Stone, Dimitriades told it. He wanted to have it operated after the tour. Peter Wolf from J Geils Band also said Tom was in a lot of pain. So maybe he was on a lot of medication, or at least a bit of medication, on that last tour. And sometimes you're not exactly yourself when on medication. He might have been a bit drowsy or a bit high, so to speak, from painkillers or whatever.

But I, too, don't buy into the idea that he and the band knew he was not going to live much longer. Nothing so far indicates that, imo.

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1 hour ago, Mudcrutch said:

Thank you and where was that originally posted?

This was posted on my Facebook wall through a group called "Tom Petty Nation."   I haven't been able to track  down the original source, though.

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18 hours ago, Mudcrutch said:

Thank you and where was that originally posted?

It looks like it was originally posted to the Mudcrutch Farm FB page. I am not sure what's going on with it.  There are some reports that it was copied from her personal FB page and that it may not have been intended for the public.  It sounds like an open letter to me, but I could be wrong.  I hope that it was meant for the public as well. 

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1802938626402261&id=121069684589172

 

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On 10/27/2017 at 11:50 AM, Nel said:

I don't know if this has been posted here yet.  

Dana's letter:

 

Sending my love and a long overdue heartfelt thank you for the outpouring of love, cards, gifts, flowers, donations and your prayers. Your sentiments mean the world to me, our 3 children, and our family. I have yet to turn on a tv or computer, but I understand that most of you grieved, right along with me and those who loved him dearly; our kids- Adria, AnnaKim and Dylan, our granddaughter, Everly. Tommy’s only sibling, Bruce, his wife, kids and grandchildren, cousins, my family, the Heartbreakers; brothers of 40+ years, his longtime devoted crew and management teams, many close friends, and his amazing fans . Those who knew him well, knew he was so much more than a musical icon and amazing artist... he was a beautiful, compassionate, empathic, complicated, generous, and a very private man. He was Tommy; who was, hands down, the coolest man, friend, dad, grandfather, bandmate, brother, son, uncle, cousin, boss, lover, soulmate, husband. He loved with all he had and if you could see us now, (including his beloved dog, Ryder), you would understand how shattered and lost we all are. His beloved 10 year old yellow English lab, Ryder, is grieving with me. He holds my hand (paw in hand), and I honestly watch tears flow from his eyes. I’ve never before seen a dog cry.

Losing Tommy is, by far, the most devastating event in my life. Selfishly, I wish he were here with me. With all of us. Tragically he isn't and it can only mean that we will have to turn to each other now, and learn to be strong and go on without him, our king, patriarch, fearless leader. He would want us to all remain united as friends, family, comrades...and his beloved fans-who encouraged him to keep going, to keep reaching higher and higher-please know, how much he loved and appreciated each one of you and know, he will always be with you. All of us combined gave him a forever family and the respect and admiration he deserved since he came into this world. He needed that love. No one was more deserving than TP.

He was compassionate, kind, full of integrity when it came to how he lived his life and his music. Sensitive, yet tough as nails when fighting for justice. He cared about the average joe as much as as he did high profile folks, especially when they had a shared passion for the art of music, no matter what genre or what position one held as part of his team, be it touring, recording, sound mixing, producing, engineering, film, photography, critics, radio staff, management and administrative staff, business management, security, personal assistants, drivers, personal staff, radio listeners, fans, friends, so many friends, family: anyone--who shared his deep love of music, was held on high regard. Duckhead (Scott T.), Mike, Ben, Ron, Steve, Bugs (Alan W), Ryan U, Richard F., Mark C., Dean C., Queenie-Linda, Mary K, Robert S., Chris A., Bernie G, Anna M, Tony D, Randal W., Mark F., Tommy L, Randall M, Greg L, Dr. Jim, George D, Peter B, Jeff L, Olivia & Dhani H, Stevie N, Dan M, Glenn P.,Jack D & Regina S, Mimi (Dolores), Randal W., Peter B, Sean P, the Vedder’s, the Shelters, the Webb sisters, so many musician pals, too many to list here, and on and on... along with many of his closest friends, lost too soon... He enjoyed reading mail from radio show fans and jotting down their requests. He fought with all he had to keep his art, his music affordable and ticket prices fair & away from scalpers--he truly cared. He never forgot where he came from; his humble beginnings, he hated pretense + sell-outs, manufactured fame, music + film theft, all of that bullshit that pretty much killed the industry...he was a moral, humble, genuinely kind, a musical genius, a total badass who knew how to make his point, whatever tactics he pulled out of his hat... our fearless TP. Who never once sold out! 2764.png❤️ He had an amazing sense of honor and humor. A bit (lot) of cynicism and quick wit and always a ready laugh. And work wise, that he could keep a band together for over 40 years is amazing and speaks volumes about him and each member of the band. To nurture one another and cultivate creativity for that long is a testament to him and all of you. He loved each of them like brothers. As well as his crew. And their unwavering dedication to Tommy is a reflection of his love and dedication to them. 
He loved his family so much. Our children, Adria, AnnaKim, Dylan and our beloved granddaughter, Everly. He loved all of us, every single day and we benefited from it in every human way possible. We were truly blessed to have him love us so profoundly.

He was my very best friend, my sublime soul mate, the very very best husband, a wonderful father and grandfather, brother, uncle, boss/leader, and friend. I will miss him every minute of everyday. Our lives are forever changed by his presence and love. I hope that we continue to allow that to incapsulate us and protect us. He would want that. For us to band together in love and humor. And be present. To live. He will always be with us. His music was everything to him and it will live forever in the world. We are truly blessed.

Thank you for all you have given me, my love. And for your beautiful and eternal mark on the world. And thank you friends and family for your thoughtful, loving kindness and support through this incomprehensible and unbearable loss.

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Just read this and now I'm balling like a baby. It's everything I would hope to hear about how he felt and cared so much about his fans, the music, and just your every day Joe. That was so beautifully put and by far the best statement about Tom's passing that I've read. Thanks for sharing this!!!!!

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Don't know if it's been discussed here already.

I was wondering if we've heard anything from Stan Lynch since Tom passed away? Something tells me this must have been a tough time for him, considering they never really reconciled before Tom passed away...

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