I don't know if this has been posted here yet.
Sending my love and a long overdue heartfelt thank you for the outpouring of love, cards, gifts, flowers, donations and your prayers. Your sentiments mean the world to me, our 3 children, and our family. I have yet to turn on a tv or computer, but I understand that most of you grieved, right along with me and those who loved him dearly; our kids- Adria, AnnaKim and Dylan, our granddaughter, Everly. Tommy’s only sibling, Bruce, his wife, kids and grandchildren, cousins, my family, the Heartbreakers; brothers of 40+ years, his longtime devoted crew and management teams, many close friends, and his amazing fans . Those who knew him well, knew he was so much more than a musical icon and amazing artist... he was a beautiful, compassionate, empathic, complicated, generous, and a very private man. He was Tommy; who was, hands down, the coolest man, friend, dad, grandfather, bandmate, brother, son, uncle, cousin, boss, lover, soulmate, husband. He loved with all he had and if you could see us now, (including his beloved dog, Ryder), you would understand how shattered and lost we all are. His beloved 10 year old yellow English lab, Ryder, is grieving with me. He holds my hand (paw in hand), and I honestly watch tears flow from his eyes. I’ve never before seen a dog cry.
Losing Tommy is, by far, the most devastating event in my life. Selfishly, I wish he were here with me. With all of us. Tragically he isn't and it can only mean that we will have to turn to each other now, and learn to be strong and go on without him, our king, patriarch, fearless leader. He would want us to all remain united as friends, family, comrades...and his beloved fans-who encouraged him to keep going, to keep reaching higher and higher-please know, how much he loved and appreciated each one of you and know, he will always be with you. All of us combined gave him a forever family and the respect and admiration he deserved since he came into this world. He needed that love. No one was more deserving than TP.
He was compassionate, kind, full of integrity when it came to how he lived his life and his music. Sensitive, yet tough as nails when fighting for justice. He cared about the average joe as much as as he did high profile folks, especially when they had a shared passion for the art of music, no matter what genre or what position one held as part of his team, be it touring, recording, sound mixing, producing, engineering, film, photography, critics, radio staff, management and administrative staff, business management, security, personal assistants, drivers, personal staff, radio listeners, fans, friends, so many friends, family: anyone--who shared his deep love of music, was held on high regard. Duckhead (Scott T.), Mike, Ben, Ron, Steve, Bugs (Alan W), Ryan U, Richard F., Mark C., Dean C., Queenie-Linda, Mary K, Robert S., Chris A., Bernie G, Anna M, Tony D, Randal W., Mark F., Tommy L, Randall M, Greg L, Dr. Jim, George D, Peter B, Jeff L, Olivia & Dhani H, Stevie N, Dan M, Glenn P.,Jack D & Regina S, Mimi (Dolores), Randal W., Peter B, Sean P, the Vedder’s, the Shelters, the Webb sisters, so many musician pals, too many to list here, and on and on... along with many of his closest friends, lost too soon... He enjoyed reading mail from radio show fans and jotting down their requests. He fought with all he had to keep his art, his music affordable and ticket prices fair & away from scalpers--he truly cared. He never forgot where he came from; his humble beginnings, he hated pretense + sell-outs, manufactured fame, music + film theft, all of that bullshit that pretty much killed the industry...he was a moral, humble, genuinely kind, a musical genius, a total badass who knew how to make his point, whatever tactics he pulled out of his hat... our fearless TP. Who never once sold out! ❤️ He had an amazing sense of honor and humor. A bit (lot) of cynicism and quick wit and always a ready laugh. And work wise, that he could keep a band together for over 40 years is amazing and speaks volumes about him and each member of the band. To nurture one another and cultivate creativity for that long is a testament to him and all of you. He loved each of them like brothers. As well as his crew. And their unwavering dedication to Tommy is a reflection of his love and dedication to them.
He loved his family so much. Our children, Adria, AnnaKim, Dylan and our beloved granddaughter, Everly. He loved all of us, every single day and we benefited from it in every human way possible. We were truly blessed to have him love us so profoundly.
He was my very best friend, my sublime soul mate, the very very best husband, a wonderful father and grandfather, brother, uncle, boss/leader, and friend. I will miss him every minute of everyday. Our lives are forever changed by his presence and love. I hope that we continue to allow that to incapsulate us and protect us. He would want that. For us to band together in love and humor. And be present. To live. He will always be with us. His music was everything to him and it will live forever in the world. We are truly blessed.
Thank you for all you have given me, my love. And for your beautiful and eternal mark on the world. And thank you friends and family for your thoughtful, loving kindness and support through this incomprehensible and unbearable loss.